This past year, I’ve been in some situations where I’ve had to set firm boundaries. The kind that are needed for my mental health, and theirs. Knowing this, it should be easy to state said boundary, and follow through, right? Ummm…that would be a no. It feels pretty horrible actually, and sometimes painful. We are bombarded by messages and infographics all over the internet that tell us what we should be saying - ‘If this continues, I won’t be spending time here’, ‘If you continue to guilt me, I will end this conversation’, and then everything will be better. The other party will respond well, and the air will be cleared and all your issues will go away. I don’t know about you, but just the thought of saying some of these phrases that are touted as the only way to set boundaries breaks me out in a cold sweat.

I wanted so badly to do everything *right* and make sure it was perfect, that I made time for little else. And I agonised over the small details of the business - like having the perfect Instagram grid! Text, photo, text, reel, text, video. And I get lovely feedback on how it looks, so I was afraid to change it. It doesn’t stop there though….The perfect blog post, the perfect newsletter, the perfect videos to post, being the perfect coach….. The cycle of outside validation is real!

Intuition is something you’ll hear me talk about a lot (obviously - what Intuitive Coach doesn’t?) but I am not immune to ignoring it. Our gut feelings are rarely wrong - they are usually trying to tell us something and we ignore them at our peril!

There is no way I would be where I am if I was still loving the wine, so I thought I'd share some lessons I've learned over the last couple of years of being booze free that have helped me out…..

Intuitive coaching….Hmmm. Have you seen this title bandied about but no idea what it actually means, or what it involves? What is it an intuitive coach does? How can they help? Allow me to break it down for you!

Be true to who you are. Be your authentic self. How many times have you seen or heard these phrases? We know that living authentically and being true to who we are will help us feel more fulfilled, but where to start?